HSCO 508-DISCUSSION 5 REPLY 1

HSCO 508-DISCUSSION 5 REPLY 1

The below assignment has been written by another student. Please read it very carefully and reply to it by providing at least 150-200 meaningful words, APA format, at least one in-text cite and from at least one resource. Textbook Carbonell, M. (2008). How to solve the people puzzle: Understanding personality patterns – With online profile code. Blue Ridge, GA: Uniquely You Resources. ISBN: 9781888846447. Petersen, J. C. (2007). Why don’t we listen better? Communicating & connecting in relationships. Tigard, OR: Petersen Publications. ISBN: 9780979155901. Stewart, J. (2012). Bridges not walls: A book about interpersonal communication (11th ed.). Boston, MA: McGraw-Hill Publishing Company. ISBN: 9780073534312. Thanks (Lori)

After watching this movie, it was plain to see that their marriage had communication issues. They didn’t want to listen or acknowledge the needs of the other person. I noticed a degeneration spiral between the two. I saw it in the their behavior when the wife shuns her husband because she is afraid to love him and in return he has difficulty loving her because she shuns him (Stewart, 2012). In these spirals, each person finds fault with the other in the dissolution of their relationship (Stewart, 2012) instead of looking within. She was trying to get her needs met by another man and this makes it so her husband cannot meet her needs. He doesn’t feel appreciated so he doesn’t want to meet her needs. It’s an endless cycle.

I think self-disclosure would have helped them because it was obvious the two were not able to effectively express their needs to each other. According to Stewart (2012), “Two people who let each other know how they are reacting to situations and to each other are pulled together; two people who stay silent about their reactions and feelings stay strangers” (Stewart, 2012, p. 212). I believe this to be true. Some people expect their significant other to be able to “read” them. They think that if they really knew them, they would know what the problem is. News flash; people aren’t mind readers! If you want to fix the problem, you have to be honest and up front about what the problem is to begin with. No one knows what you’re thinking except for you.

 

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